When the old way stops working, something deeper is asking to be heard.
Virtual therapy for new parents + babies, big-feeling kids and teens, and adults who are tired of twisting themselves into shapes that were never theirs.
OFFERING VIRTUAL THERAPY ACROSS WASHINGTON, IDAHO AND MONTANA
Maybe things were working.
Or at least, sort of working.
Or at least, sort of working.
You had your systems. Your coping skills. Your carefully balanced routines.
Your ability to keep it together, mostly, until bedtime or the grocery store or the baby’s third hour of crying or the school email that made your whole body go rigid.
And then one day, the wheels came off.
Maybe you just had a baby and everyone told you this would be beautiful, but your actual life feels raw, disorienting, sleepless, and nothing like the soft-focus version you were promised.
Maybe you are raising a child whose feelings are enormous, whose behavior makes no sense if you only look at the surface, and whose nervous system seems to reject every tidy parenting strategy the internet keeps handing you.
Maybe it is you.
Maybe you have spent your whole life feeling like everyone else got a handbook you somehow missed.
You have been called too sensitive, too intense, too much, too scattered, too emotional, too dramatic, too weird, too smart to be struggling this much.
And now, after years of white-knuckling your way through, you are wondering if you might be neurodivergent. Or maybe you were recently diagnosed and are staring at that information like, “Cool. So now what?”
You are not broken.
But the old map may not fit anymore.
Welcome To Elowen
Elowen Therapy is for the tender, intense, overwhelmed, brilliant, grieving, pattern-noticing, big-feeling humans and families who are tired of trying to force themselves into systems that were never built for their nervous systems in the first place.
This is therapy for the parents who want to stop repeating old patterns.
For the new parents who love their baby and also feel completely undone.
For the kids and teens whose behavior is trying to say something important.
For the adults realizing, late in life, that maybe they were never “too much” — maybe they were unsupported, misunderstood, overstimulated, masked, dismissed, or trying to survive in a world that kept missing the point.
And for the families who know they do not need another sticker chart, lecture, or consequence ladder.
They need understanding.
They need repair.
They need someone who can help translate what is happening underneath the behavior, the shutdown, the rage, the tears, the avoidance, the perfectionism, the panic, the numbness, and the “I don’t know why I’m like this.”
Sometimes that means infant-parent therapy after a hard pregnancy, birth, postpartum experience, or early attachment rupture.
Sometimes it means parent coaching and doing your own work while trying not to hand your nervous system directly to your children. Noble goal. Harder than it sounds.
This work is about repair.
Not fixing you.
Not fixing your child.
Not making everyone more convenient.
This work is about slowing down enough to understand what your nervous system has been carrying, what your child is communicating, where connection got interrupted, and what needs to happen now for more safety, steadiness, and trust to grow.
Sometimes it means teleplay and parent support for a child or teen with big emotions, anxiety, grief, shutdown, defiance, sensitivity, or behavior that is clearly not responding to “try harder” parenting.
Sometimes it means an intensive for a late-realized neurodivergent adult who is looking back over their whole life with new language, new grief, new compassion, and a strong desire to stop abandoning themselves for the comfort of other people.
Hi, I’M Dylan.
What it’s like to work with me
My work is rooted in attachment, relational neuroscience, nervous system regulation, play therapy, grief work, early development, and the deeply practical reality that people do not heal by being shamed into better behavior.
I bring warmth, steadiness, humor, clinical depth, and a regulated presence into the room.
Even when the room is virtual.
Yes, it’s possible.
Our nervous systems are relational. We feel each other. We borrow calm and connection. We co-regulate. We change in the presence of someone who can stay with us without needing us to shrink, explain, perform, or become easier to manage.
I am not here to hand you a script and tell you to do it my way.
I am here to help you listen more deeply to yourself, or your child, your body, your grief, your history, and your relationships — so you can find your way with more clarity, connection, and choice..
A gentle beginning is still a beginning.
The first step is simply a conversation to see whether we are a good fit.
Services
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For parents and babies after difficult pregnancy, birth, postpartum distress, feeding struggles, excessive crying, sleep disruption, bonding concerns, medical stress, separation, or the deep ache of “this is not how I thought it would feel.”
This work supports both baby and parent by listening to the nervous system, strengthening attachment, and making room for repair from the very beginning.
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For children and teens with big emotions, anxiety, grief, sensitivity, shutdown, anger, perfectionism, behavioral explosions, or nervous systems that do not fit the standard parenting advice.
Sessions may include play, creativity, nervous system education, emotional processing, and parent support so the work does not stay trapped in the therapy hour.
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For parents who want to understand what is happening underneath their child’s behavior and respond with more steadiness, connection, and confidence.
This is especially helpful when your child’s big feelings bring up your own old stuff — because yes, that is root of the nervous system, and also extremely common.
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Focused, deep, short-term support for parents who are ready to look more deeply at patterns in the family system, their own emotional responses, attachment wounds, parenting struggles, and what needs to shift.
These are for committed, motivated parents who do not need a quick tip.
They need room to breathe, understand, grieve, repair, and build a new way forward.
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For adults who are newly diagnosed, self-identified, questioning, or finally realizing that their lifelong sense of being “different” has a name.
This work supports identity integration, nervous system repair, grief, self-trust, unmasking, boundaries, relationships, burnout recovery, and the deeply strange experience of re-reading your whole life with better lighting.
Who I work with
I work with clients who are physically located in Montana, Washington, or Idaho at the time of session.
All services are virtual.
I support new parents, infants, children, teens, parents, and adults navigating grief, anxiety, trauma, neurodivergence, attachment wounds, big emotions, and the messy work of becoming more fully themselves.
You do not have to keep doing this the old way.
If things are not working anymore, that does not mean you failed.
It may mean the system you built to survive has reached its limit.
It may mean your child’s behavior is telling a deeper story.
It may mean your body is tired of masking.
It may mean grief, birth, parenting, neurodivergence, or old attachment wounds are asking for something more honest than “just cope better.”
There is another way through.
A slower way.
A steadier way.
A way rooted in connection, repair, and coming home to yourself.
Begin here.
If you are ready for support, reach out to schedule a consultation.
We will talk about what is happening, what kind of support may fit best, and whether ongoing therapy, parent support, or an intensive is the right next step.
