The strategies that used to help are not helping anymore. The meltdowns are bigger. The shutdowns are longer. The anxiety has more opinions. The defiance has entered its full theatrical era. Everyone is exhausted, and somehow the internet keeps suggesting sticker charts with the confidence of a mediocre man in a podcast studio.

Maybe your child is sensitive, anxious, explosive, neurodivergent, grieving, traumatized, demand-avoidant, perfectionistic, shut down, wildly intense, or just very clearly not responding to “traditional parenting.”

Maybe you have read the books, followed the accounts, tried the scripts, listened to the experts, and still find yourself thinking:

Why is this so hard?

Why do I keep reacting like that?

Why does my child’s behavior feel personal, even when I know it isn’t?

How do I hold boundaries without becoming harsh?

How do I stay connected when I am so tired?

How do I help my child when I can barely find my own nervous system with a flashlight?

This is where a parent intensive can help.

This is not a parenting class

A therapy intensive is deeper than strategies and parenting hacks.

This is focused therapeutic work for parents who are ready to look at what is happening underneath the behavior, the conflict, the shutdown, the yelling, the tears, the guilt, the resentment, the over-functioning, and the “I swore I would never parent this way, and yet here we are.”

Because parenting does not happen in a vacuum.

You bring your nervous system.

Your child brings theirs.

Then everybody’s history, needs, sensitivities, expectations, grief, trauma, and survival strategies show up in the same kitchen at 7:42 p.m. on a Tuesday because someone used the wrong cup.

That is not a character flaw.

That is a relational pattern asking for support.

What we may work on

Parent intensives are designed for focused, individualized support around your child, your parenting, and your own internal responses.

Depending on your needs, we may explore:

Your child’s big emotions, anxiety, anger, shutdown, grief, sensitivity, or behavior patterns

What your child may be communicating underneath the behavior

How your own nervous system responds to your child’s distress or defiance

Rupture and repair after yelling, disconnection, conflict, or overwhelm

How to set limits without shame, fear, emotional withdrawal, or escalation

The difference between consequences, punishment, boundaries, and control

How to support a neurodivergent or deeply sensitive child without abandoning your own needs

What gets activated in you when your child struggles

How your own childhood, attachment history, grief, trauma, or unmet needs show up in parenting

How to respond with more steadiness, clarity, warmth, and connection

Practical next steps for your actual family, not an imaginary family living peacefully inside a parenting book

This work is not about becoming the perfect parent.

That parent does not exist. And if they did, they would probably be insufferable.

This is about becoming more regulated, more honest, more connected, and more able to respond instead of react.

Why an intensive?

Weekly therapy can be helpful.

But sometimes you need more room than a 50-minute session can offer.

A parent intensive gives us time to slow down and map the pattern. We can look at your child’s behavior, your responses, the family dynamics, the nervous system loops, the stuck places, and the places where repair is possible.

Instead of spending half the session catching up and the other half trying to find the thread, we get to stay with the thread.

This format may be a good fit if:

You feel stuck in the same parenting pattern over and over

Your child’s emotions or behavior are affecting the whole family

You want support with anxiety, trauma, grief, neurodivergence, or big emotions in your child

You know your own history is getting activated, but you are not sure what to do with that

You want more than a quick strategy

You are ready to look at your own nervous system, not just your child’s behavior

You want focused support with clear next steps

This format may be helpful if you are:

My approach

My work is rooted in attachment, nervous system regulation, relational neuroscience, play therapy, trauma-informed care, grief work, and the belief that behavior is communication before it is a problem to solve.

That does not mean there are no limits.

It means limits work better when the child feels safe enough to receive them.

It means connection is not permissiveness.

It means repair is essential.

It means your child’s behavior may be telling a story your family has not yet had help understanding.

And it means you, the parent, deserve support too.

Because if your child’s feelings are big to sit with, it may be that you need someone to sit with yours first.

What a parent intensive can support

By the end of our work together, the goal is not that your child becomes magically compliant, tidy, cheerful, and deeply respectful of transitions.

Let’s stay among the living.

The goal is that you understand the pattern more clearly, have more compassion for what is happening, and know what your next steps are.

You may leave with:

A clearer map of your child’s nervous system and behavior patterns

A better understanding of what gets activated in you as a parent

More language for your child’s needs, fears, limits, and bids for connection

Practical ways to respond to big emotions without escalating the situation

A clearer distinction between limits, consequences, punishment, and control

Tools for repair after conflict or disconnection

A more grounded plan for supporting your child and yourself

A renewed sense that your child is not the problem — and neither are you

Format

Parent intensives are offered virtually.

You must be physically located in Montana, Washington, or Idaho at the time of session.

Intensive options may include extended sessions, half-day formats, or a series of focused sessions depending on your needs, availability, and clinical fit.

We will begin with a $25 consultation to talk through what is happening, what you are hoping for, and whether this format makes sense for your family. If you decide to move forward, the consultation fee will be
deducted from the cost of your first session.

An important note about fit.

Intensives are not a crisis service or a substitute for a higher level of care. If your child is actively suicidal, at risk of harming themselves or others, unable to stay safe, or needing frequent support between sessions to get through the day, your family deserves more immediate and consistent care than this format can provide.

That does not mean your child is “too much” or your family is failing.

It means the situation needs a wider net.

A crisis team, emergency evaluation, intensive outpatient program, wraparound services, or an ongoing local therapist may be the safer next step. Intensives are for focused therapeutic work when there is enough stability to reflect, process, and begin making meaningful changes with support.

This may be for you if…

You are parenting a child or teen with big emotions, anxiety, depression, trauma, grief, neurodivergence, ADHD, autism, PDA traits, sensitivity, shutdown, or explosive behavior.

You are tired of advice that assumes your child is just being difficult.

You want to understand what is happening underneath the behavior.

You want to stop parenting from panic, guilt, anger, or collapse.

You are trying to break generational patterns without losing your mind in the process.

You want a warmer, steadier, more connected relationship with your child.

You need help translating the behavior into something you can actually respond to.

You do not need another person telling you to try harder.

You are probably already trying very hard.

So is your child.

What you may need is a different lens.

One that helps you see the nervous system underneath the behavior, the attachment need underneath the protest, the fear underneath the anger, the grief underneath the shutdown, and the repair that is still possible.

Parenting a child with big emotions can feel lonely, confusing, and relentless.

But you do not have to keep doing it the old way.

There is a way through that does not require you to abandon yourself or your child.

A slower way.

A steadier way.

A more connected way.

Begin here

If you are ready for focused support around late-realized neurodivergence, burnout, masking, identity, grief, and nervous system repair, reach out to schedule a consultation.

We will talk about what is happening, what you are hoping for, and whether an intensive is the right next step.

Ready or not, let's go!

FAQ

Your questions, answered

No. You do not need a formal ADHD, autism, or AuDHD diagnosis to do this work.
Many adults come to neurodivergence through lived experience first: burnout, sensory overwhelm, masking, emotional intensity, executive dysfunction, parenting a neurodivergent child, or finally realizing their whole life makes more sense through this lens.
A formal diagnosis can be validating and useful. It can also be expensive, inaccessible, complicated, or not something you want or need right now (or ever). We can work with your lived experience, your patterns, your nervous system, and what is actually happening in your life.
No. This work may be a fit if you identify with ADHD, autism, AuDHD, giftedness, high sensitivity, sensory processing differences, PDA traits, chronic masking, burnout, or a lifelong sense of being wired differently.
The point is not to squeeze you into one perfect label.
The point is to understand what your nervous system has been trying to manage, what supports you actually need, and how to build a life with less shame and more self-trust.
That is welcome here.
You do not have to arrive certain. You may be questioning, newly exploring, self-identified, recently diagnosed, or quietly holding a giant pile of “wait, is this me?” tabs open in your brain.
We can explore what fits, what does not, what has been true across your life, and what kind of support might actually help.
An intensive gives us more time than a standard weekly therapy session to follow the deeper thread.
We may explore masking, burnout, identity, grief, sensory needs, boundaries, executive functioning, relationships, parenting, attachment wounds, or the ways you learned to survive by becoming easier for other people.
This is not a productivity makeover.
It is focused therapeutic work to help you understand yourself more clearly, reconnect with your needs, and begin building a life that fits your actual nervous system.
This is therapy.
We may absolutely talk about practical strategies, routines, boundaries, scripts, communication, pacing, and real-life support. But the work is grounded in clinical training, attachment, nervous system regulation, grief, trauma-informed care, and the emotional meaning underneath the patterns.
In other words: yes, we can talk about your calendar. (And maybe why you have…six of them?)
But we are also going to talk about why your calendar feels like it is personally trying to ruin your life.
Yes.
Many late-realized neurodivergent adults come into this work because parenting brought everything to the surface. (Or your child was diagnosed first and now you can see it in yourself.) Your child’s big emotions, sensory needs, anxiety, defiance, shutdown, or neurodivergence may activate old wounds in you.
We can work with both: your own nervous system and the parent-child relationship.
This may include understanding triggers, repairing after rupture, reducing shame, building more realistic expectations, and learning how to parent without abandoning yourself.
Burnout is one of the most common reasons adults seek this kind of work.
Neurodivergent burnout can affect your energy, mood, sensory tolerance, executive functioning, relationships, work capacity, and sense of self. It can feel like you suddenly cannot do what you used to do, even if you were “high functioning” for years.
We will not treat burnout like a motivation problem.
We will look at what your system has been carrying, where you have been over-adapting, and what recovery may need to look like in your actual life.
Maybe — but not by ripping the mask off and flinging it into the woods.
Masking often developed for good reasons: safety, belonging, work, relationships, survival. Unmasking needs to be thoughtful, paced, and relationally wise.
We can explore what masking costs you, where it may still feel necessary, where you want more freedom, and how to begin making choices that are less rooted in self-abandonment.
That makes sense.
Late-realized neurodivergence can bring enormous grief. Grief for the child who was misunderstood. Grief for the adult who kept pushing. Grief for relationships, opportunities, energy, health, and years spent believing you were the problem.
Anger may come too.
This work makes room for all of it without rushing you into gratitude, silver linings, or “at least now you know.” Sometimes you need space to tell the truth before you can move forward.
Intensives are not a crisis service or a substitute for a higher level of care. If you are actively suicidal, at risk of harming yourself, unable to stay safe, or needing frequent support between sessions to get through the day, you deserve more immediate and consistent care than this format can provide.
That does not mean you are “too much.” It means your nervous system needs a wider net.
A crisis team, emergency evaluation, intensive outpatient program, or ongoing local therapist may be the safer next step. Intensives are for focused therapeutic work when you are stable enough to reflect, process, and begin making meaningful changes with support.
All sessions are virtual.
You must be physically located in Montana, Washington, or Idaho at the time of session.

Other than that, you can be in your cozy bedroom in PJs, in a treehouse, or at the edge of lake…
An intensive may be a good fit if you want focused, deeper support around late-realized neurodivergence, burnout, masking, identity, grief, boundaries, parenting, or nervous system repair — and you feel ready to show up with curiosity, commitment, and motivation for the work.
We will begin with a $25 consultation to talk through what is happening, what you are hoping for, and whether this format makes sense for your needs. If you decide to move forward, the consultation fee will be deducted from the cost of your first session.
If another kind of support would be a better fit, I will tell you that too. No therapeutic mystery maze required.

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Therapy Intensives for Parents

When parenting has become more than weekly survival mode.

This is not a parenting class

What we may work on

This work is not about becoming the perfect parent.

That parent does not exist. And if they did, they would probably be insufferable.

This is about becoming more regulated, more honest, more connected, and more able to respond instead of react.

Why an intensive?

My approach

What a parent intensive can support

Format

An important note about fit.

This may be for you if…

You do not need another person telling you to try harder.

Begin here

FAQ

Your questions, answered

Do I need a formal diagnosis?

Is this only for ADHD or autism?

What if I am not sure I am neurodivergent?

What happens during a late-realized neurodivergent intensive?

Is this therapy or coaching?

Can we talk about parenting too?

What if I am burned out?

Will this help me unmask?

What if I feel grief or anger about being missed for so long?

Are intensives a good fit if I am in crisis?

Where do I need to be located?

How do I know if an intensive is right for me?