Maybe you are still circling the words ADHD, autism, AuDHD, giftedness, sensory sensitivity, masking, burnout, executive dysfunction, some side-eye and thinking, “Well. That would explain a few things.”

Or maybe a few thousand things.

You may have spent years believing you were too sensitive, too intense, too scattered, too emotional, too particular, too tired, too weird, too much, or somehow not trying hard enough.

You may have been “high-functioning” to everyone else and quietly falling apart when no one was looking.

You may have built an entire life around pushing through, reading the room, being useful, staying agreeable, over-explaining, over-performing, overthinking, and trying to make your needs take up less space.

And now the old system is not working anymore.

Good. (What?!)

Yeah, I said it. Good. Also…Annoying. Terrifying. Inconvenient. Rude of the nervous system.

But also, good.

Because what looks like falling apart may actually be the beginning of something more honest.

This is not about becoming “better at normal.”

These intensives are not designed to help you mask harder, produce more, tolerate more overwhelm, or become a shinier, more convenient version of yourself.

No tiny productivity cults here.

This work is about understanding what your nervous system has been carrying, what you have had to adapt around, and what it might mean to build a life that actually fits.

Late-realized neurodivergence can bring relief, grief, anger, clarity, confusion, tenderness, and a strong desire to go back in time and hand your younger self a sandwich and a damn manual.

You may find yourself asking:

Why did everything feel so hard?
How did no one see this?
Who would I have been if I had understood myself sooner?
How much of my personality is actually masking?
What do I need now?
What do I stop apologizing for?
How do I parent, partner, work, rest, feel, and exist without betraying myself?

These are not small questions.

They deserve more than a quick worksheet and a cheerful suggestion to buy another planner.

What we may work on

Late-realized neurodivergent intensives are focused, spacious sessions for adults who want to understand themselves more deeply and begin shifting the patterns that
no longer serve them.

Depending on your needs, we may explore:

Masking, people-pleasing, and chronic self-abandonment

Burnout, shutdown, overwhelm, and nervous system exhaustion

Grief about being misunderstood, misdiagnosed, missed, or unsupported

Identity integration after diagnosis or self-recognition

Sensory needs, boundaries, and the cost of “just pushing through”

Executive dysfunction without shame or moral failure

Anxiety, perfectionism, rejection sensitivity, and emotional intensity

Relationship patterns, attachment wounds, and communication needs

Parenting as a neurodivergent adult, especially if your child’s nervous system activates your own

Learning how to trust your body, your limits, your pace, and your actual yes/no

Unmasking in ways that are wise, relational, and not accidentally setting your whole life on fire

This is therapy for the part of you that is tired of translating yourself into something more palatable.

Why an intensive?

Weekly therapy can be beautiful.

It can also feel like skimming the surface when what you really need is time to follow the thread.

An intensive gives us room to slow down and stay with the deeper pattern long enough to understand it. Instead of opening the door, peeking in, and then stopping because the session is over, we get to actually sit down in the room and look around.

This format may be helpful if you are:

Newly diagnosed, self-diagnosed, or questioning neurodivergence

Feeling overwhelmed by what this new understanding means

In autistic burnout, ADHD burnout, caregiver burnout, or “I cannot keep pretending this is fine” burnout

Parenting a neurodivergent or big-feeling child and realizing your own nervous system needs support too

Wanting deeper work around masking, identity, grief, boundaries, and self-trust

Ready to stop treating your needs like an unfortunate administrative error

Intensives are not a crisis service or a substitute for a higher level of care.

If you are actively suicidal, at risk of harming yourself, unable to stay safe, or needing frequent support between sessions to get through the day, you deserve more immediate and consistent care than this format can provide.

That does not mean you are “too much.” It means your nervous system needs a wider net. A crisis team, emergency evaluation, intensive outpatient program, or ongoing local therapist may be the safer next step. Intensives are for focused therapeutic work when you are stable enough to reflect, process, and begin making meaningful changes with support.

My approach

This work is nervous-system-informed, attachment-focused, neurodiversity-affirming, and deeply relational.

That means I am not looking at your struggles as character flaws.

I am looking at what your nervous system learned to do in order to survive, belong, stay safe, avoid rejection, keep up, stay loved, or get through the day.

Some of those strategies may have been brilliant.

Some of them may now be wrecking your sleep, your relationships, your health, your parenting, your work, or your ability to know what you actually want.

We make room for both truths.

I bring clinical training, lived understanding, steadiness, humor, and a strong allergy to shame-based self-improvement.

I will not hand you a rigid system and tell you it is the way.

I will help you listen for your way.

The one that fits your body.

Your brain.

Your relationships.

Your actual life.

What an intensive can support

By the end of our work together, the goal is not that you become magically organized, perfectly regulated, and reborn as a person who enjoys meal prep.

Let us not be ridiculous.

The goal is deeper understanding, more self-compassion, clearer language, and practical next steps that actually fit your nervous system.

You may leave with:

A clearer understanding of your neurodivergent patterns and needs

Language for what has felt unnamed or misunderstood

More compassion for the ways you adapted

A map of your burnout, masking, shutdown, or overwhelm patterns

Practical supports for boundaries, pacing, communication, and recovery

A stronger sense of what is yours, what was survival, and what you are ready to stop carrying

A beginning path toward reconnecting with yourself

Format

Late-Realized Neurodivergent Intensives are offered virtually.

You must be physically located in Montana, Washington, or Idaho at the time of session.

Intensive options may include extended sessions, half-day formats, or a series of focused sessions depending on your needs, availability, and clinical fit.

We will begin with a consultation to determine whether an intensive is the right container for the work you want to do.

You are not too much.

You may be overwhelmed.

You may be exhausted.

You may be grieving.

You may be angry that no one saw it sooner.

You may be relieved to finally have words.

You may be scared that understanding yourself more fully will change everything.

It might.

But maybe everything already changed when the old way stopped working.

This is a place to begin listening to what has been asking to be heard.

Not so you can fit the box better.

So you can stop mistaking the box for belonging.

This may be for you if…

You have recently realized you may be ADHD, autistic, AuDHD, highly sensitive, gifted, or otherwise neurodivergent.

You were diagnosed later in life and now feel both validated and completely disoriented.

You look successful from the outside but feel exhausted, scattered, numb, anxious, or quietly feral on the inside.

You are tired of being told to use planners, try harder, calm down, be less sensitive, or “just set boundaries” as if boundaries are a toaster you forgot to plug in.

You are parenting children with big emotions and realizing their needs are waking up old wounds in you.

You are grieving the younger version of yourself who thought they were broken.

You want help building a relationship with yourself that is less punishing and more true.

Begin here

If you are ready for focused support around late-realized neurodivergence, burnout, masking, identity, grief, and nervous system repair, reach out to schedule a consultation.

We will talk about what is happening, what you are hoping for, and whether an intensive is the right next step.

Ready or not, let's go!

FAQ

Your questions, answered

No. You do not need a formal ADHD, autism, or AuDHD diagnosis to do this work.
Many adults come to neurodivergence through lived experience first: burnout, sensory overwhelm, masking, emotional intensity, executive dysfunction, parenting a neurodivergent child, or finally realizing their whole life makes more sense through this lens.
A formal diagnosis can be validating and useful. It can also be expensive, inaccessible, complicated, or not something you want or need right now (or ever). We can work with your lived experience, your patterns, your nervous system, and what is actually happening in your life.
No. This work may be a fit if you identify with ADHD, autism, AuDHD, giftedness, high sensitivity, sensory processing differences, PDA traits, chronic masking, burnout, or a lifelong sense of being wired differently.
The point is not to squeeze you into one perfect label.
The point is to understand what your nervous system has been trying to manage, what supports you actually need, and how to build a life with less shame and more self-trust.
That is welcome here.
You do not have to arrive certain. You may be questioning, newly exploring, self-identified, recently diagnosed, or quietly holding a giant pile of “wait, is this me?” tabs open in your brain.
We can explore what fits, what does not, what has been true across your life, and what kind of support might actually help.
An intensive gives us more time than a standard weekly therapy session to follow the deeper thread.
We may explore masking, burnout, identity, grief, sensory needs, boundaries, executive functioning, relationships, parenting, attachment wounds, or the ways you learned to survive by becoming easier for other people.
This is not a productivity makeover.
It is focused therapeutic work to help you understand yourself more clearly, reconnect with your needs, and begin building a life that fits your actual nervous system.
This is therapy.
We may absolutely talk about practical strategies, routines, boundaries, scripts, communication, pacing, and real-life support. But the work is grounded in clinical training, attachment, nervous system regulation, grief, trauma-informed care, and the emotional meaning underneath the patterns.
In other words: yes, we can talk about your calendar. (And maybe why you have…six of them?)
But we are also going to talk about why your calendar feels like it is personally trying to ruin your life.
Yes.
Many late-realized neurodivergent adults come into this work because parenting brought everything to the surface. (Or your child was diagnosed first and now you can see it in yourself.) Your child’s big emotions, sensory needs, anxiety, defiance, shutdown, or neurodivergence may activate old wounds in you.
We can work with both: your own nervous system and the parent-child relationship.
This may include understanding triggers, repairing after rupture, reducing shame, building more realistic expectations, and learning how to parent without abandoning yourself.
Burnout is one of the most common reasons adults seek this kind of work.
Neurodivergent burnout can affect your energy, mood, sensory tolerance, executive functioning, relationships, work capacity, and sense of self. It can feel like you suddenly cannot do what you used to do, even if you were “high functioning” for years.
We will not treat burnout like a motivation problem.
We will look at what your system has been carrying, where you have been over-adapting, and what recovery may need to look like in your actual life.
Maybe — but not by ripping the mask off and flinging it into the woods.
Masking often developed for good reasons: safety, belonging, work, relationships, survival. Unmasking needs to be thoughtful, paced, and relationally wise.
We can explore what masking costs you, where it may still feel necessary, where you want more freedom, and how to begin making choices that are less rooted in self-abandonment.
That makes sense.
Late-realized neurodivergence can bring enormous grief. Grief for the child who was misunderstood. Grief for the adult who kept pushing. Grief for relationships, opportunities, energy, health, and years spent believing you were the problem.
Anger may come too.
This work makes room for all of it without rushing you into gratitude, silver linings, or “at least now you know.” Sometimes you need space to tell the truth before you can move forward.
Intensives are not a crisis service or a substitute for a higher level of care. If you are actively suicidal, at risk of harming yourself, unable to stay safe, or needing frequent support between sessions to get through the day, you deserve more immediate and consistent care than this format can provide.
That does not mean you are “too much.” It means your nervous system needs a wider net.
A crisis team, emergency evaluation, intensive outpatient program, or ongoing local therapist may be the safer next step. Intensives are for focused therapeutic work when you are stable enough to reflect, process, and begin making meaningful changes with support.
All sessions are virtual.
You must be physically located in Montana, Washington, or Idaho at the time of session.

Other than that, you can be in your cozy bedroom in PJs, in a treehouse, or at the edge of lake…
An intensive may be a good fit if you want focused, deeper support around late-realized neurodivergence, burnout, masking, identity, grief, boundaries, parenting, or nervous system repair — and you feel ready to show up with curiosity, commitment, and motivation for the work.
We will begin with a $25 consultation to talk through what is happening, what you are hoping for, and whether this format makes sense for your needs. If you decide to move forward, the consultation fee will be deducted from the cost of your first session.
If another kind of support would be a better fit, I will tell you that too. No therapeutic mystery maze required.

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Late-Realized Neurodivergent Intensives

For the adults who are suddenly re-reading their whole lives with better lighting.

This is not about becoming “better at normal.”

These are not small questions.

They deserve more than a quick worksheet and a cheerful suggestion to buy another planner.

What we may work on

This is therapy for the part of you that is tired of translating yourself into something more palatable.

Why an intensive?

My approach

What an intensive can support

Format

You are not too much.

This may be for you if…

Begin here

FAQ

Your questions, answered

Do I need a formal diagnosis?

Is this only for ADHD or autism?

What if I am not sure I am neurodivergent?

What happens during a late-realized neurodivergent intensive?

Is this therapy or coaching?

Can we talk about parenting too?

What if I am burned out?

Will this help me unmask?

What if I feel grief or anger about being missed for so long?

Are intensives a good fit if I am in crisis?

Where do I need to be located?

How do I know if an intensive is right for me?